Relationship development

 

We all have our ups and downs in relationships. Learning to be in a relationship with ourselves, as well as with each other, is the journey we are all on together.

When in a relationship, it is important that we know what we are able to give to ourselves, to be able to choose, and at the same time allow our partner or others to have their choices and needs met.

We often experience challenges when we think we need to be right or compete for resources. In relationships, we are able to explore what is right for ourselves in support of one another. Understanding our attachment patterns and what our triggers are, can allow individuals in a relationship to find some space to repair and heal.

In relationships be it individually or with another or more, it is important to keep ongoing support and nourishment for each other as individuals and together. Nourishing a relationship gives both balances of work and play, and is an essential part of a relationship to restore the energy that lies in between us.

Early attachment processes are important for brain development and the subsequent ability to form close relationships throughout the life span (Schore, 2003).

The Somatic Experiencing® method is effective in developing healthy attachments. This is because somatic experiencing is based on the principle that an innate secure attachment is within all of us is. Secure attachment can occur at any time in a person’s life, even if it did not happen when they were young.

Emotionally Focused Therapy® is a structured approach with relationships, based on the science of adult attachment, expanding our understanding of the nature of healthy relationships. Attachment views human beings as innately relational, social and wired for intimate bonding with others.  The EFT model prioritises emotion and emotional regulation as the key organising the individual experience and key relationship interactions.

I bring the Somatic Experiencing® method and the Emotionally Focused® model (EFT®) in relationship coaching to assist you, partners, siblings, children, colleagues, workplaces and groups, to form new ways to relate with each other, and allow the potential for a healthy, thriving relationships.

SE® and EFT® are very effective in changing our responses, understanding our attachment patterns, and supporting us to attune to each other on a deeper level. This allows us to be more responsive and open, without experiencing the feeling of being in distress, threatened, unsafe, or exposed.
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“The relationship work we have done and are continuing to do with Donna has changed our lives immeasurably. Her powerful understanding and immense knowledge in so many areas provides a supportive platform for us to move and expand the way we relate, release old patterns that aren’t serving us, and create a deeper connection to ourselves and each other. Her love, support, and care are things we look forward to every time we meet. ”

“Donna appeared in our lives and gave us hope, trust, and the power to participate in our own healing process. She enables you to feel at peace, safe and relaxed.”

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